The Zen of you can’t change yourself

You can’t change yourself, so don’t even try. I know that’s not what the infomercials and self-help books tell you. But they’re wrong. You can’t change. Like a fat man staring into an empty fridge—there’s nothing there. So, stop it. Why can’t you change yourself?...

Let go or be dragged

I once watched a man about to take his first lesson in water-skiing. He was on his back bobbing up and down in the water, ski’s pointing up. From the speedboat, someone was calling out some last-minute instructions. Then, with a roar, the boat took off. At first it...